Being Complete...

I was facilitating a workshop the other day when one of my participants came in late and proceeded to clean up their lack of integrity with me. I was impressed and loved how he was embracing the distinction and making it work.

About 30mins later I noticed that he was not emotionally complete. I asked him about it and he replied that he was feeling really bad for being late still and was having a difficult time forgiving himself.

I introduced a distinction to the group of being complete. Sometimes we are incomplete wiht what has happened or what was said to us and it is very difficult to continue on when we are in this state. It is a state of fragmentation that doesn't work for us as human beings. There is a lack of integrity here that has us not working.

There are three things you do to be complete about ANYTHING. They are...

1. You must HEAR something to be complete.
2. You must SAY something to be complete.
3. You must DO something to be complete.

That's it!

So I asked the participant which one he thought he needed. He didn't know. Sometimes we just don't know -which is why we need a coach because they know -they are trained to listen for incompletions.

So I asked him if I could say something. He said yes. I proceeded to tell him how perfect it was for the program that he was late so we could have this conversation as well as the value of him seeing in his life how incomplete feels and to discover other areas where he was incomplete.

I could see the tension leaving him and he said, "Wow -I really needed to hear that!" I asked him if he was complete and he said "yes there is no bad feeling anymore!"

Being complete is powerful because it has you operating at your highest state as a human being.

Look for areas where you are incomplete and go and clean it up!