Being Of Service

So yesterday I'm at my kids' dentist and he's getting into my world asking about habits and routines. He starts to see from my world what I go through as a parent and is able to create something that works for my kids and I. Amazing guy. This is why I pay extra for a specialist when I could have free dental care from a generalist. It's because the specialist SERVES me. I feel honoured and heard.

I'd even go to a specialist if they did this so it has nothing to do with him being a specialist -that's just a bonus to me!

Really serving people seems to be a lost art. It only takes a commitment and practice to do it and rewards far outweigh the costs.

Most people are into pleasing people instead of serving people. We learn it from when we were six. We learned that when we please our parents we get them to do or give us what we want. And that gets practiced and practiced until we're forty and there we are being six again trying to "please" that client so we can get money from them.

Sometimes what serves someone won't please them. It may even tick them off!

I was wondering about this one day when the thought dawned on me: What if you find yourself serving someone and they're taking advantage of you? What do you do then? Do you just keep on serving them?

The answer is yes. You do keep on serving them and what would really serve that person would be to have a conversation about how they're taking advantage of you. To call them out is being of service to them.

Why would you want a fellow human being going around in this world abusing people (and ultimately abusing themself)?

Really serve people.