The “story" is the private and public conversation of justifications, reasons, explanations, and fixed positions that stand in the way of our being effective.
We often trade our "story" for the results we intend. People rarely consider what would be possible if they were not limited by their "story."
Our "story" obscures the "source" of our effectiveness by locating what happened outside ourselves. Our "story" has a design that always seeks to make us "right" about the interpretations we are creating. Often, others are made wrong in our "story." Our "story" can also be a commitment to "looking good" to ourselves, and to what others perceive.
We accept our "story" as though it were true, valid and "reasonable." We are "blind" to our "story." If we are skillful, we sell our "story" to others. They often buy in, thus creating additional agreement or "reality" about our "story."
We seldom notice that our "story" is composed of unexamined assumptions and ungrounded assessments that produce no distinctly designed action. Ultimately, what we are left with is a life made out of our "story." The result of this shows up as life not working, or struggle.
When we are able to distinguish what happened and the meaning we gave to what happened, then we can take responsibility for creating our "story." Taking on responsibility frees us from the prison of our "story."
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